Stop Eating the Damn Chips Ep. 3

Question 1: When is it ok to go through your partners phones or social media?

Jerry says when they are dead, or in other words never. Sunnie and Jerry agree never is a good answer but with a few exception. The one case in which it might be ok it if you are already 100% certain they are being unfaithful or lying, but needing more evidence to confront them with. That does not mean doing so because you have a "feeling" or "think" they might be. If you feel the need to check your spouses content then you may be the problem. Find out where your trust issues are coming from and work on that, not trying to figure out their passwords. With that being said, healthy couple know how to access their partners phones because it's pretty common to need to use the others for complete innocent day-to-day things. If you're partner refuses to let you near their phones then maybe you do have problems and should just end it before you get framed as the crazy paranoid person.

Question 2: Is it Okay to bring home pets without consulting the other person?

No. Sunnie tried. Sunnie failed. Jerry was not happy. In Jerrys defense the couple has 3 dogs and 2 cats already. The kitten needed a home and they did find it a happy home only two houses away where they can visit and check in. Here is where the issue lies though, we can't do things to make the other happy. Sunnie never wanted the dogs he has but pretended to be ok with it because it makes Jerry happy. Instead what happened is a resentment toward Jerry for the dogs because pets aren't the same as choosing to watch the movie your spouse want tot make them happy. Pets are a commitment that you're both going to have to deal with for a very long time. Make sure both of you are content to deal with the pet before it comes into the home. Pets are precious, but not worth the fights that can follow. Sunnie's snake is not included, Jerry can suck it. Sunray the snake is the easiest pet they have ever owned.

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