In this weeks episode of BMA Jerry and Sunnie cover two new listener questions.
1. He proposed to his other girlfriend, but won't propose to me. We didn't get much more information on this question so Sunnie thinks their could be some other motives here. Jerry says it doesn't have an bearing on his feeling for you. Maybe he feels easy with you and in no rush. Jerry says many men propose because they feel rushed or pressured. He proposed to his second fiancée after she kept reminding him that "all" her friends were getting engaged. He proposed to shut her up. Jerry believes he's just comfortable, but its ok to ask him up front, "Do you see this relationship turning into a marriage?" as well as dropping the hints that you are ready. Men can be just as unsure as women.
Sunnie wants to know if you are funding your lives. If you are paying the bills, why would he leave? He may not have plans to marry, but the relationship is too easy or just super comfortable. Shake it up and rock his world. If you can't get any commitment then he can't get any of your money.
2. My husband games during all his free time but complains we don't spend enough time together.
Sunnie says keep a time log of just how much time he's spending on his games, then bring that time log up any time he whines about not spending enough time together. Jerry says to smash his game console, but Sunnie thinks that is a bit drastic. You never want to be the crazy psychotic drama queen in the relationship. It's okay to set clear boundaries and time limits. Some people may say thats treating them like children, but act like a child get treated like one. One adult should never have to tell another adult they are playing games too often.
Get petty with it. "clock out" of your job, even if that job is being a housewife. Go sit in front off a hobby for hours and refuse to doo anything else. Watch how quick your gamer will bitch about it. When they try to convince you enough is enough agree to a schedule, for you BOTH.
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