On the first show for podcast format we started with two questions. The show was streamed via facebook live where we received two other questions from viewers to answer as well.
Question one: How do you keep the spark alive after a long time together?
We both agreed its the little things that mattered, but first and foremost, expect ruts. No marriage should ever be all happy unless you're both high out of your minds the whole time. The key is to not burrow yourself into one of those ruts and plants yourselves there. Recognize it for what it is, temporary. If you bog down and decided "Well, this is just our lives now." Then you're gonna end up bogging down so deep you are both miserable and resent each other.
Even if you aren't feeling romantic and frisky and want to fuck like rabbits anymore, remember the litter things. Picking up their favorite ice-cream, replacing the lightbulb the other can't reach, or just a playful ass-grab when your walk by, all these things help to build that rut back up and get you on smooth ground.
Question two: How do I not be so jealous of other women.
Don't let any woman hold that power over you. We can be jealous of her ass, her tits, her hair, her wardrobe but how can we be jealous of her when it comes to our man? He is OUR man? Makes no damn sense. If you have to worry about your man running off with another woman then honey, you got bigger problems than a little jealousy. Don't you dare let another woman ever know how jealous you are either. By acting defensive of other women or telling them to not look/talk/listen to you man you are waving a flag that says "I'm insecure and think there's a possibility I could lose my man to you!". Hell no. Not today. Jealousy still happens, its a natural reaction. You can't control it, but you can control how you react to it.
Question three: How do I get. my man to take me out without asking him?
Don't ask. Tell him to take you out. We go too start communicating. Sure it means a hell of a lot more when they just do it without asking, bit according to Jerry, the man on set, they are waiting to be told what you want so they can do it. Don't ask him, tell him exactly what you want, then the ball is in his court. Sunnie suggests a blow job to get the ball rolling, but that's totally optional.
Question four: What are you (Jerry) afraid of in marriage?
Jerry says the biggest fear he could muster up was me, Sunnie, losing respect for him as a man. In his eyes men earn, work, and provide. I agreed I respect him for those things, but would lose respect if he ever prevented me from working and earning more for the sake of him being able to say he's the breadwinner. It's about how to support the family best, not who supports the family best. While I work from home for now it's fine, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.
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